Have you ever wonder why non-hijabis stay away from hijabis? It’s because they’re “judgianas”. Hijabis think because they cover their hair, they’re better than those that do not cover. Meanwhile, we all sin differently. It’s not even a strange thing that most hijabis don’t observe their salat, and it’s also not strange if you see a non-hijabi observe their complete salat every day.
What we must all do as Muslim women is to love and accept ourselves for who we are. Let us not use today to judge our future. A non-hijabi today might be a hijabi tomorrow and vice versa. Many Muslim ladies not covering their hair really want to do so deep down their heart but find it difficult to. But they know they’ll eventually cover up anyway.
I started covering my head back in 2008. I was inspired by one of my classmates that despite how rich she dressed and how expensive the hair she made was, she’ll always wear a scarf to cover it. I secretly admire her. Then one day I thought to myself, “this young lady that covers her hair is even prettier than me who doesn’t. Why can’t I also start covering?” And that was it. I’ve never looked back since then. Even though I should have graduated to the hijab since, I haven’t found it easy. I know someday, I’ll wear the hijab on a regular basis, but for now, the scarf is doing it for me.
This reminds me of one time when I said my salaam to one of my school mates back in the days and she refused to answer me. I thought she didn’t hear and I said it again, but to my surprise, she told me she deliberately didn’t answer me because I don’t wear hijab. Meanwhile, I wear scarves. Now imagine if I were to be a Muslim woman not covering my head at all and I greeted her. Later that year, she got pregnant and of course it was out of wedlock. And then I wondered how not wearing a hijab is a greater sin than fornication.
The point I’m trying to make is that we shouldn’t judge others based on the kind of sins they commit. we all sin differently and we wouldn’t like it if we’re also judged. If we must correct an error, it should be with love, without castigation.